Abortion Hurts

November 25, 2007

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How Would a Mother Know the Sex of Her Unborn Child

January 27, 2007

By Vicki Thorn

One step in healing after an abortion is to recognize the sex of your child and to choose a name. Women wonder how they might know this or they are surprised that they always had sense of the sex of their child.

Women would know the sex of their child because they carry cells for their children the rest of their lives. We women seem to be able to recognize the male cells from the female cells.

When I ask women if they know the sex of their child, they reply one of three ways.

• Of course, I have always known it was a boy.

• How could I know that, but if she had been born she would be 18 now.

• I have no idea!

I find with the last response that if I tell the woman about the cells that they carry, they often admit that they do have a sense of the sex of that child. They just didn’t know how they would know that.

If the woman still doesn’t know, I recommend that if she is a praying woman, she ask God. God has spoken to His people in dreams throughout the ages. There are many stories of dreams in the Bible. If Joseph hadn’t been paying attention to his dreams, salvation history might not have gone well. All of his instructions about taking Mary as his wife and fleeing into Egypt came in a dream.

Women will often have dreams of the child or in some cases children. Sometimes she had more than one abortion that she had not recalled or she also had miscarriages. In the dream, it is all apparent to her.

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Men and Abortion

January 15, 2007

By Vicki Thorn

The lie that has been perpetrated in our society from the legalization of abortion on is that abortion is a woman’s issue. It is her choice. It is between her and her doctor. Men have been cut out of the decision process or told they have to be compliant.

If there are over 43 million abortions in this country since abortion was legalized, there are 43 million men who are impacted by an abortion loss. These men usually suffer in silence or sometimes act out in rage, in what may become a murder/suicide.

Why would a pregnancy make a difference to a man? Because the man is tied to his partner by means of certain scent hormones called pheremones. These are scent molecules of affiliation. They are not the same as the scent of food or perfume. They are perceived by different cells in the nose and the brain, but this information that they transmit impacts our lives in many ways. They are why women who spend much time together cycle together. Mothers know the smell of their baby right after birth and fathers know it within a few days. It is why we automatically smell the top of the head of a newborn baby we are holding.

It seems that men recognize by scent when women are fertile and when they are pregnant. Some men report knowing that their partner was pregnant before she did. I know in our family, my nephew knew my niece was pregnant before she did.

In other cultures it is recognized that 60 to 90% of men will have some symptoms of pregnancy with their wife. I learned about this in an anthropology course at the University of Minnesota many years ago. No one in our culture seems to have heard of this, If the poor man is one of the 20% who are really sick and he goes to the doctor, no doctor ever asks if his partner is pregnant. He just assumes he has a virus and that it will go away. It does, right before birth.

But there is even more to the story. In the 6 weeks before birth, the man undergoes hormonal changes. His testosterone drops, making him less aggressive and sexually interested. His naturally occurring estrogen climbs, making him more gentle. His stress hormone, cortisol, rises and he is in an alert stage, needing to protect mother and child. He gets more of the hormone vasopressin, which is a bonding hormone, effectively Mother Nature’s way of saying “sit, stay!” And about the time the baby arrives he gets prolactin, which is the nursing hormone in women. Why would he get that? Well, prolactin makes us nice. We smile more and we are very helpful. Isn’t that just what a new mother with a newborn needs? “Of course, I’ll go get diapers, even if it is midnight!”

It doesn’t even end there. Research on certain monkeys who are good parents finds that the male brain changes. He gets more brain cell growth in the front of his brain, the rational, logical thinking part. Researchers say the cells last until the offspring becomes independent, but don’t define at what age independence happens: 2, 12, 22 or 35. At that time, the cells begin to die off.

And, when the hormones return to normal, the testosterone never returns to the pre-fatherhood level or the bachelor level. The man is forever changed by the pregnancy.

When men grieve following an abortion, they articulate grieving for lost fatherhood. He was denied the opportunity to complete the biological changes that were begun with the pregnancy.

A good book for a man dealing with an abortion loss is “Men and Abortion: A Path to Healing” by C. T. Coyle. This is for any man, regardless of how he was involved in the abortion. It uses a forgiveness model of healing. It can be purchased from LifeCycleBooks

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Why A Mother Never Forgets

January 14, 2007

By Vicki Thorn

When I first began doing post-abortion healing ministry some 22 years ago, I often got challenged as to why a mother would need to grieve an abortion. Wasn’t it true that the abortion erased the pregnancy? This business that she would remember and grieve was dismissed.

Over time more facts and understanding about the nature of pregnancy have surfaced and perhaps now we can understand why a mother never forgets.

In the year 2000 there were a series of conferences in Rome to celebrate the New Millennia. Several had to do with science and biology. I received an email from one of the congresses that stopped me cold.

Women carry cells from every child they ever conceive, it stated. That seemed like science fiction to me so I began to contact the researchers involved and to read the research documents. Suddenly I understood why women who have abortions and who miscarry never forget the lost children.

The phenomena is called “human microchimerism”. Early in the pregnancy an exchange of cells begins between mother and child. We are not positive what the means of cellular exchange is, but we know it happens. At the time that the child leaves the mother’s body, whether as the result of an abortion, a miscarriage, a cesearean section or a vaginal delivery, even more cells are sent to the mother. It also seems that if the pregnancy ends early, an even greater number is transferred.

These cells seem to be some type of stem cell and are stored in the medulla of the mother’s brain: where instinct lies, but also throughout her body. They have been found even 37 years later so they appear to be replacing themselves. The current research on the cells is focusing on the fact that in many cases they seem to be reparative cells of some kind. In an early case, a woman with thyroid disease had her thyroid removed. The doctors discovered that the thyroid seemed to be repairing itself and they found that the repaired part were cells of her son.

Recently I gave a presentation in Pittsburgh where a physician during the question and answer period spoke about research he has been involved in for cancer treatment where they are using the cells of their sons to attack the cancer cells.

Might these cells be the missing link in mother’s intuition? If we carry cells the rest of our lives, we are truly linked to our children in a biological way! Mothers have told about knowing a child is in trouble or ill. When my third child was born, I knew there was something wrong with her. It turned out that she had been born with a congenital kidney malformation that required surgery. I’m a believer in mother’s intuition.

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Merry Christmas to All Our Visitors!

December 23, 2006

In
those
days a decree
went out from Ceasar
Augustus that all the world
should be enrolled. This was the
first enrollemen, when Quirinius was
governor of Syria. And all went to be enrolled,
each to his own city. Adn Jpseph also went up from
Galilee, from the city of Nazareth, to Judea, to the city of
David which is called Bethlehem, because he was of the lineage of
David, to be enrolled with Mary his bethrothed, who was with child. And
while they were there, the time came for her to be delivered. And she gave
birth to her first-born son and wrapped him in swaddling cloths, and laid him in
a manger, because there was no place for them in the inn.
Lk 2:
1-7

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We Welcome Vicki Thorn- Our Contributor.

December 7, 2006

We are extremely happy and humbled to welcome our newest contributor to our website. Vicki Thorn worked in post abortion ministry since 1984 and founded National Office of Post Abortion Healing and Reconciliation as well as Project Rachel. Her contribution to our website is invaluable. If you are interested to read future Viki’s posts and articles on our website you may subscribe to our website. You may also subscribe exclusively to Vicki’s articles via RSS (Real Simple Syndication), just scroll down to where left sidebar has listed categories and click on (rss) next to the category with her name. While her articles may be published in many other categories as well, every single article that she writes will be automatically included in the category that was named after her.

Again we welcome Vicki and look forward to read her articles and posts. She also is a moderator of one of the forums “Ask Vicki Thorn”, where you can ask her question or maybe even share your own experience.

Over the time of almost 30 years of working and helping people to deal with post abortion trauma, Vicki believes that abortion affects not only women who have abortions, but also their families and even friends.

Please stay tuned to read her articles on our website. Feel free to recommend our website to your friends, we have limited resources in order to market our website as many other Internet “giants” do and mostly rely on “spreading” the word about our site.

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The Aftereffects of Abortion

November 21, 2006

In the 1973 the United States Supreme Court struck down every federal, state, and local law regulating or restricting the practice of abortion. This action was based on the premise that the state’s no longer had any need to regulate abortion because the advances of modern medicine had now made abortion “relatively safe.” Therefore, the Justices concluded, it is unconstitutional to prevent physicians from providing abortions as a “health” service to women.³⁴

National abortion policy is built upon this judicial “fact” that abortion is a “safe” procedure. If this “fact” is found to be false, then national policy toward abortion must be re-evaluated. Indeed, if it is found that abortion may actually be dangerous to health of women, there is just cause for governments to regulate or prohibit abortion in order to protect their citizens. This is especially true since over 1.5 million women undergo abortions each year.

Since the Court’s ruling in 1973, there have been many studies into the aftereffects of abortion. Their combined results paint a haunting picture of physical and psychological damage among millions of women who have undergone abortions.

Read the rest of the article at Elliot Institute.

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Contraception- A Woman’s Burden.

November 17, 2006

For the past 20 to 30 years contraception was presented to us as the most wonderful thing that have happened to humanity in the recent history. But is it it really? Does the contraception provides “peace of mind”, “worry free”, “happy and secure” and many other feelings ascribed to it in so many TV and other commercials?

Simple reflection on man’s and woman’s fertility, can show quiet a different picture. In fact, the contraception from that point of view may begin to look as an incredible “burden”.

So what are the basics of male and female fertility? On man’s part it is very simple. Men generally reach their biological sexual maturity in their teens and if they remain healthy their fertility can last way in to their old age. But not only that, once man is biologically matured, he is fertile all the time. He can father a child at any time.

Woman’s fertility is much more complex. After they biologically mature, generally during early teen ages, their fertility slows down and cease when they go through menopause. Also unlike men, woman has only few days during her menstrual cycle when she can become pregnant. Unlike man, woman’s contribution to procreation lats beyond sexual act itself.

Now lets look at the contraception from the prospective of our fertility. Man’s contribution to procreation, being not as complex may give him and easy way out of the responsibility when contraception is involved. Failed contraception does not affect him at physically, he does not become pregnant. Failed contraception also may force considering abortion, never the less advocates of contraception continue to argue that use of contraception will decrease the rate of abortion. Unfortunately, many of the contraceptions used to day are “abortificient”, they do the job after conception has already taken place. Use of contraceptives did not decreased the rate of abortion, in fact opposite can be argued.

The burden that comes along with contraception is generally very one sided, even if it involves contraceptive requiring mans participation such as condom. Since it is woman that will be affected the most should contraceptive fail.

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RU 486 (Cytotec) Facts and Information.

November 10, 2006

Many abortion providers today claim that RU 486 is one of “the safest medical procedures” there is and qualify it as a “Non-Surgical Abortion”. This kind of information can be found on the abortion providers websites along with the claims of how effective the procedure is, but they barely touch  on possible complications and risks associated with RU 486. This article is aimed to provide more information about RU 486 and possible side effects and risks involved.

What is RU 486?

RU 486 is a common name for an artificial steroid used to block progesterone, a hormone produced and needed during pregnancy. Generic name: Mifepristone. In the United States RU 486 is sold under brand names Early Option and Mifeprex. Taken alone RU 486 causes complete abortion only about 60% at the time and a second drug needs to be administer to cause uterine contractions to help expelling the embryo. This second drug is prostadlandin and is sold in the US under generic and band names Misoprostol and Cytotec respectfully.

It should be mentioned that Cytotec use for this purpose was not approved by the manufacturer itself on. The primary purpose of Cytotec is intended for treatment of patients with risks for developing ulcers from high doses of aspirin-like medications taken for conditions such as arthritis. Following statement from Cytotec manufacturer is available at FDA website.

Since the effectiveness of this drug is emphasized by the abortion providers this article will aim to provide some information about side effects and risks involving taking these drugs.

Food and Drug Administration advises that a woman should not take RU 486 if any of the following apply:

• If it has been more than 49 days since your last menstrual period begun
• If you have IUD
• Your have been told that you have a pregnancy outside the uterus (known as ectopic pregnancy). About 2% of all pregnancies are ectopic.
• If you have problems with adrenal glands (chronic adrenal failure)
• If you take blood thinning medication
• You undergoing certain steroid treatments
• You cannot return for next 2 visits (2 and 14 days)
• You cannot easily get and emergency medical help (this may include “blood transfusion, and emergency resuscitation”)
• You are allergic to such medications as mifepristone, misoprostol or medicine that contains misoprostol such as Cytotec or Arthrotec.

FDA also provides information that women were excluded for US testing of RU 486 due to the possible health risks if they were:

• under 18 years of age or
• over 35 and smoked more than 10 cigarettes a day or
• if they lived or worked more than one hour from the emergency facility that served the abortion facility conducting the trial or
• if they had any of the following conditions:
• asthma
• glaucoma
• mitral stenosis
• arterial hypotension
• sickle cell anemia
• history of severe liver, respiratory or renal disease or thromboembolism
• insulin-dependent diabetes
• cardiovascular disease, e.g. angina, valve disease, arrhythmia, cardiac failure
• hypertension
• blood pressure over 140/90mmHg
• anemia
• adnexal masses or tenderness on pelvic examination that suggested pelvic inflammatory disease16

Side Effects of use of RU 486 alone or in conjunction with Cytotec.

It would be very difficult to list all possible side effects associated with use of RU 486, therefore it will be limited to the most serious and dangerous side effects:

Pelvic infections

A California teenager, Holly Patterson died from septic shock three days after taking RU 486.

Drug trials in Canada where suspended in 2001 following the death of a woman participating in the trials. Death cause- septic shock due to bacterial infection.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO) study 30% of women who had incomplete RU-486 abortions developed pelvic infections because one effect of the drugs combination is to suppress immune system. The same organization (WHO) advises for women to receive antibiotics for six weeks after RU-486 abortion.

After arrival of the RU-486, abortion providers suddenly began to refer to it as a “safest way to terminate” pregnancy. The safest as opposed to what? Maye it is their own way to admit that abortion is not a safe procedure after all.

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California Abortion Law Proposition- What’s Next?

November 9, 2006

I am not sure if there is a parent who loves his or her child that would want their daughters to go through what Diana Lopez’s daughter went through. Watch the video for yourself:

It is so sad that California parents has suffered such a defeat in this last elections. What is most upsetting about the entire issue is that Planned Parenthood is covering up what is qualified as a statutory rape. Many of the teenage girls get pregnant by men that are 21 and older. What a sad times that we are living in.

If in the future you will have decide on whether or not to support parental notification laws following video may be of help:

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