November 1, 2006
We dedicate our website to Saint Mary Magdalene, one of the most fascinating persons in the New Testament. We consider her our personal patron and saint. Mary Magdalene is often identified with with woman who had been caught in adultery, the woman miraculously saved by Jesus from being stoned to death. Here is that story:
Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. Early in the morning he came again to the temple; all the people came to him, and he sat down and taught them. The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst they said to him, “Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now the law of Moses commanded us to stone such. What do you say about her?” This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bend down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you, be the first to throw stone at her.” And once more he bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground.
But hen they heard it, they went away, one by one, beginning with the eldest, and Jesus was left along with the woman standing before him. Jesus looked up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and do not sin again.”
John 8:1-11 While you may have heard or read this story many times in the past, I would like you to look at it fro maybe a little different point. This woman identified as a prostitute elsewhere in the New Testament. To keep her “profession”, her life was very likely scarred by abortion, or maybe even by many abortions. So when Jesus forgives her, his forgiveness is much deeper than just an act of adultery. There is so much more to this story, and I will try to touch up on it in the future. For now I will leave you with this single thought. Even if you feel like every one around is condemning you for abortion, turn to Jesus because he will say to you, “I do not condemn you, go and do not sin again.”
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November 1, 2006
If you are a priest or/and a clergy member, there will be a time in your ministry when you will face some one who was involved in abortion; a woman who had it, a man who payed for one, father who may have forced on her daughter. I am speaking only from my own painful experience here, and in no way would like to say that every one had been through the same. As a little child, I confessed once stealing an eraser and got yelled at by my confessor. I know this accident may sound insignificant, but it was enough to turn me away from confession for the years to come. When a woman comes to you for confession or advise, please do not judge her. She has already judged herself, and probably is convinced that the only place she is going to is hell. It is an opportunity given to you by God to point her towards heaven and salvation. Being a priest or minister you do represent God to her, and your words are no longer yours. If she needed to talk just to another person, friend or a psychologist she probably would not have come to you. She turns to you because no one could provide her with answers. She turns to you because, some where in her heart, there is still hope that maybe God will forgive her. Unfortunately many a times, women a ripped off their hope in forgiveness by no other than clergy member. It would be very good idea to prepare yourself for an event like that. Some times it may take much more than just one confession or one counseling session, and healing after abortion may take years. The good news is that there are people out there who have been through abortion, have found their way to healing and are willing to share with others. Look around an find out if there are any support groups or ministries near your church that are working with people who have had abortions. Encourage creating such ministries at your own church. Keep handy names of a few doctors who will be willing to see woman who have had an abortion if emergency arises. It will be difficult to find such doctors, due to the possible litigations and no one would want to clean some one else’s mess, and that is alright, sooner or later you will come across a doctor who will not mid to help you. When she comes to you, it may be her very first step on the road of healing and you may be the one to point her towards the right direction. Things to be mindful of:
Abortion may have been recent and she may have suffered complications and needs medical attention. It is very unlikely she would go for the follow up to the same doctor that she had abortion at. If needed she should be sent to an emergency care room. She may be pregnant with another child. Most of the second abortions occur within one year of the first one. If she is pregnant, she needs to be referred to some one who knows how to handle a “crisis” pregnancy. Finally, she may have had more than one abortion. It is fine to ask her if this is the only abortion she had. Many women say that one of the most difficult things to do is to come up with the “number” if they had more than one abortion. Women also say that getting the number out is very healing. Do not be surprised or taken back by the number you hear. Every number generally represents years of guilt and self-punishment.
Finally, this kind of ministry will probably be most rewarding experience for you. You are one of the most important people these women will ever meet besides God himself. Picture by: tome213
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November 1, 2006
One of the biggest fear that a woman who had been through the abortion, is the constant reminder how terrible her action was. This is the first kind of reaction she is likely to receive once people learn about her abortion. Sadly to say, but this reaction can come from her closest family and friends, but also from the her church community. In the woman’s mind, she is definitely going to hell for what she has done, what you or others can do is to show her the way to heaven. I highly recommend the book written by Pope John Paul II. Yes, even if you are not catholic, I strongly recommend this book. The title of the book is “The Gospel Of Life”, and its not only educational, but this encyclical gave birth to post abortion healing ministries within the church. Here is just short quote from the book:
I would now like to say a special word to women who have had an abortion. The Church is aware of the many factors which may have influenced your decision, and she does not doubt that in many cases it was a painful and even shattering decision. The wound in your heart may not yet have healed. Certainly what happened was and remains terribly wrong. But do not give in to discouragement and do not lose hope. Try rather to understand what happened and face it honestly. If you have not already done so, give yourselves over with humility and trust to repentance. The Father of mercies is ready to give you his forgiveness and his peace in the Sacrament of Reconciliation. You will come to understand that nothing is definitively lost and you will also be able to ask forgiveness from your child, who is now living in the Lord. With the friendly and expert help and advice of other people, and as a result of your own painful experience, you can be among the most eloquent defenders of everyone’s right to life. Through your commitment to life, whether by accepting the birth of other children or by welcoming and caring for those most in need of someone to be close to them, you will become promoters of a new way of looking at human life.
If nothing else, this book can become very educational in terms of learning what is the true teaching of the catholic church in respect to abortion. This book is available at Amazon and Barnes and Noble, if you cannot afford drop me a line.
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November 1, 2006
One day I asked God to show me a sign. As I was driving to church, there was one big cloud over in the sky in the form of eyes. I knew at that moment that God has forgiven me for the sin of abortion, and he forgives you too. Go back to Him, because He loves you. This is the photo that I took:
Many people can see this as a pure coincident. For me it was a clear sign from God, and it also was the beginning of my journey of healing. Here at my website I would like to share with you my journey. You may or may not be suffering from abortion at this time. No matter who you are, you are welcomed here. I hope that sharing my journey with will help you to understand that God loves you and he forgives you. All he wants is that you will forgive yourself and move to a better place in your life. No matter what people say abortion can not be qualified as a “non-event”. Other things can, but not abortion. If you cut a finger, for example, two weeks from now you would need to stop and think what finger was it, this is what a “non-event” is, it does not alter your life. It is never like that with abortion. Abortion alters people life’s a leaves permanent marks all over. People who were involved in abortion generally react to abortion itself by various actions. They either become active advocates of the procedure, fierce opponents, and some time quiet sufferers. But rarely can some one say that abortion had no effect over their life whatsoever. Right from the beginning I would like you to know, that no matter what your attitude towards abortion is, I will not judge you. All that I intend to do is to share how devastating abortion was for me and how God gently guided me to the place where I am now.
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November 1, 2006
This is my last post. The new website is almost ready and by tomorrow should be fully functional. My new web site can be found at http://www.healing-after-abortion.com, unfortunately you will have to book mar my new site and delete the old one.
What happens if you subscribed to your website through RSS?
If you added my website’s feed to Google, Yahoo, or any feed-read application, this move should not affect you and you will continue to receive updates from my website. In fact for the next day or two, you may receive some old articles as “new”, just be patient and ignore them, i am not trying to “spam” you in any way. If you find out that your subscription has been discontinued, it was not my intention you are welcomed to subscribe to my website again.
Why new website?
I always wanted to create a forum for the people who are waling the path of healing after abortion. It is only possible with a privately hosted website. The forum is the only major addition to the website, the look and the feel of my new website is very similar to what you have seen here.
Will you continue to post here as well?
I have no intention to continue posting on this website in the future. I will however keep this blog for the next month or so, it will help with the transition.
See you on my new website!
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November 1, 2006
This is the first post on my website, as I make transfer from wordpress.com.
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